Overprotective parents -I hope you're not one of them, or you'll never become one of them.
My parents are overprotective and all I can say is that it affected  me in many ways, most of them negatively. First thing, it has made me be  afraid of almost anything. Ever since I can remember, my parents  wouldn't let me ride a bike, skip rope, or even ride the bumper cars  alone. They wouldn't let me go outside and play with my friends, they  always demanded that they'd held my hand to cross the road even when I  was 15. They wouldn't let me go outside for a walk around our  neighborhood afraid that a car might run me over while trying to cross a  street! 
Later on when I became a teenager, they didn't even want to hear the  word boyfriend. They checked my cell phone regularly for "suspicious  text messages from boys", and my e-mails for the same reason. They still  checked if I had done my homework forcing me to learn everything by  heart and then go and recite it to them, so that they'll know I had done  it. If they didn't like a friend of mine they'd never let me hang out  with her again, needless to say that it was even off limits to have guy  friends. I wasn't allowed to wear make-up till I turned 18, I wasn't  even allowed to study what I wanted to in college because they feared I  might have financial problems later on with my life.
Now I'm in college, thankfully living on my own, but my parents still  pressure me to call them everyday day, three times a day, tell them  that I studied, tell them about my day, confirm that I still have no  boyfriend. And if I'm in a hurry to close the phone or get annoyed by  the fact that they do this to me they simply recite the whole "You don't  love us, we only have a few hours a day to talk and you treat us like  shit, and you should love your parents and talk to them about everything  because they're the only people that trully love you" speech.
I know my parents love me and only did and still do this for my own  good, in their opinion, but as I said above, this thing has mostly  affected me negatively. I'm afraid of forming a relationship and telling  my parents about it, because I know they won't approve of it, I'm  scared of not being able to be at home on time for the scheduled time  that we talk on the phone. I only hang out with people that my parents  approve of, and of course I never go out at night afraid that they'll  find out. I'm also scared of becoming a parent in the future, afraid  that I'll do to my child what my parents did to me.
There's a thin line between protecting your child and advising your  child about the dangers in life, and overprotectiveness. Sometimes it's  good to let your child make their own mistakes and learn from them.
What do you think? Are you an overprotective parent? Were your  parents overprotective, if so how has it affected you? Tell me your  story.

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